Faith. Relationship. Career

Thursday, 9 August 2012

CHRISTIAN HOME (Man and Woman)

As every institution has a hierarchy system, so does the marriage institution. There are positions and responsibilities which must be respected in order for the goal to be achieved (We will discuss the purpose of marriage later). Most importantly, there must be teamwork and understanding.

I will be using the passage in Ephesians 5: 21- 33 as an example of what is expected of a Christian home.

  1. "Submit yourselves to one another": as we can see in vs 21, submission is not strictly for women. Submission is believed to be a negative word but it is simply acknowledging and respecting each other's position and duties in the family.
  2. "For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church": It is obvious that the man is the leader of the home. We can also see this in non-Christian homes. However, this does not mean he has the right to do whatever he wants. While your wife submits to you, you also submit to Christ.
  3. "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the lord": The bible emphasizes the topic of submission to the wives because as women, most of our duties in the home require more submission. Also, note that the bible also says "unto your own husbands". Don't leave your home and start looking after other men or bringing out the best wine and cutlery when they visit. Treat your husband like a king, same way you would treat God.:)
  4. "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it".  Why is this directed at men only? Men are generally less expressive of their emotions. If Christ could die for the church, you should put your woman first, protect and provide for her.
  5. "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself": Men are expected to treat their wives as they would treat themselves. Women are very receptive to love. The way you care for her determines the level of respect, love and affection you will receive from her. I have seen women who don't receive much love yet give it. Imagine what she would do if you actually show her that you love her. WOMEN!!! Don't marry a man who does not love himself because that is already an insight to how you will be treated.
  6. "...but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church": This verse is self explanatory. Men, cherish and nourish your wives as you would do to yourselves and as Christ would do to the church.
  7. vs 31 "...a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh". I am sure we are all familiar with this verse. The bible did not say two flesh or three flesh. Most couples introduce other people into their marriage and still expect a balanced and happy home. This is a simple instruction that I strongly believe in. If as a woman, you gossip about your husband with your friends or as a man you cheat on your wife with other women, you are introducing a second party into your home. If you read that verse again, you will notice that this instruction is made to the men. "...a man shall leave his father and mother...". If the bible instructs you to leave your parents then I'm sure it's even more important to keep strangers and other people outside your home.
If you read the entire passage, especially the last verse, you will notice that the bible lays emphasis on how men should love their wives and that the wives should also submit to their husbands. My personal advice for those who are searching and praying. Men, marry a woman you can love and women, marry a man you can submit to. That is the basic solution to marriage problems. Kapeeeeesh!!!

Lastly, I just love the Wikipedia definition of leadership: " a process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task". For those who cannot find a book on leadership skills, know these three important things!

  • As a couple, you must have the same goals.
  • You must be on the same page or at least work together to make sure you are.
  • Men, you need the support of your wife in order for your goals to be achieved.

To be continued.... Have a lovely day:D

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