Faith. Relationship. Career

Wednesday, 29 August 2012

PICKING YOUR BATTLES!

For a very long time, I thought I was perfect. lol. (I really hope no one goes around feeling this way) Growing up, I was that kid that felt she was a boss and knew everything! I knew how to dish it but time to take it...."Oh No! You have crossed the line" If anyone wronged me, you just have to be the one at fault. period! I actually felt this way for a very long time. I had very low tolerance for BS and would let you know if you even made the slightest wrong move.

One day, I decided to fast and pray regarding a few things and one of my prayers was "God please reveal myself to me so I can know my weakness and my strengths"

Most of us place ourselves in the position of gods. When people offend us, it is the biggest deal on the planet but when we offend people, we hardly even remember we did.

In Proverbs 19:11 The bible says "Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense." 
Picking on people's flaws does not make you a bigger person. When you assume the position of a judge, you automatically start to believe that you are flawless. In your head, this may be a great achievement but in the long run, you would have made someone a better person by pointing out their flaws but made yourself worse.

When we spend our time condemning people and counting how many times they have wronged us, we have little or no time to work on ourselves. Another instance is that you keep reiterating the same thing and frustrate the person you are trying to change. Either way the result does not benefit both parties.

I had this thing where I would keep talking about a particular offense until I felt better but then I asked myself, "Are you discussing this issue because you want the person to change or because you want to make yourself feel better". Before voicing out a matter, ask yourself the same question. While I was learning about myself, I realized that whenever a problem leaves my mouth, it just grows from there. As soon as I talk about it, I analyse every side of the situation and get even more upset.
We must first acknowledge that whoever offended us is human then judge ourselves first, making sure we played our own part.

I recall the story of how Jesus forgave Peter even after he denied him three times. It takes someone with virtue to forgive every offense. Jesus was perfect, yet he forgave easily while we humans find it difficult to forgive one another. Judge yourself first after every encounter. Ask yourself if you would have done something differently and adopt the principle of "Does the punishment fit the crime". This way, we would learn to tolerate each other better. Have a lovely day!:D

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