Faith. Relationship. Career

Monday, 27 April 2015

THIS AGE THING


So I'm at that stage in life where parents, parents friends and even friends begin to ask "so when are we expecting the wedding". To each his own. Parents want grandchildren, Parents friends want a reason to wear gele and friends just want to attend party and dance skelewu.

At first, I would laugh about it because frankly I was enjoying being out of school and really taking one step at a time. However, the messages became frequent and sometimes very serious. lmao! you know how African parents can just randomly go "it's your life oooo, as for me I've lived mine" and you're like " Jesus, where did that even come from" LOL!

Anyhoo, so it's gotten serious and in times like this, I like to seek God's face for direction. Slowly it got to me and I began to enjoy daydreaming about having a family of my own... you know husband and kids. (lol the young shall grow). After searching my heart and observing/talking to older couples and of course seeking God's face, I realized a few things:

You don't have to conquer the world first: Sometimes, we assume in order to get ready for marriage, we must tick certain boxes. Save up $10,000 for ring, another $70,000 for wedding and then $50,000 for down payment on a house. If you have to wait for your account to show those figures, most people will be waiting a long time. This was my mentality. I figured because I haven't worked for too long so obviously haven't saved up so much, then I will have to wait longer to even consider marriage.

Invest in the right things: The most important things to work on while you're single is having a loving and forgiving heart, a strong relationship with God and a vision for your life (coupled with hard work of course). We've often heard that what you put into a relationship is what you get out. Many of us dream of raising Godly, beautiful children but the truth is that your children will adopt whatever you show them so start now by being those things you desire instead of just preaching about them.

The Idea is that you have a companion: For all my independent ladies and gentlemen, marriage is set up in such a way that you don't have to go through life alone in every regard. Whether financial, spiritual, or personal. You don't have to pray alone, accomplish your dreams alone, or go through health issues alone. That is the point of marriage and having a soul mate. It's for you to share your problems and blessings with your partner.

Age is a number: In this regard, I sincerely believe that God's timing is the best and has nothing to do with your age, colour, race or social status. When God decides to turn your life around or introduce someone special into your life, nothing can hold him back but you. All he needs is your faith and your dependence on him. Sometimes when I don't want to stress over something I just say "God I surrender this to you, fight for me" and believe me when I say God is great and He will come through for you.

He makes all things beautiful in his own time: I am someone who plans a lot. It's actually a hobby, something I enjoy doing. I have a plan for 40 years from now. I even plan for retirement and my children. lol and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that but be careful not to do God's work for him. In Matthew 6: 25&26, it says
For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they?

Let God orchestrate your life the only way He knows how to, let him make it beautiful in his own way. Many times, God brings blessings into my life earlier than I planned and sometimes later but in all, He always makes it special and beyond my expectations.
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